Relationship Problems Dwindle When You Honour Your True Self (Barrier 3)

A woman looks upward and smiles as rain falls all aroundTo be your true self and to be accepted and acknowledged by others is something that you, as a heart-centred professional, have probably sought throughout your life whether you were conscious of this or not.

In this 3rd post, the third of a series of three on overcoming relationship problems, you’ll discover another of the most common barriers and a way to overcome it so that you have a deeper more satisfying relationship.

To be in relationships, both at work and home, where your actions are appreciated and acknowledged brings you joy, peace and self worth. You yearn for these supportive and acknowledging relationships but often you find that they come with a cost…am I right?

Barrier No 3: In relationships you, more than likely, initially feel appreciated and acknowledged but over time the cost becomes apparent. You realise that your need for connection and acknowledgement is driving many of your actions, you are turning into a ‘people pleaser’ and your true self is no longer getting her needs met. Furthermore when acknowledgement is not given to you by the people around you, you feel misunderstood, empty and used.

Wanting to be liked and acknowledged by others is a natural desire but desperately wanting this acknowledgement to come from others is your downfall. You are putting your happiness, well-being and self worth into the hands of others.

Conscious Connection Solution No 3: Far better to act consciously, to put your desires for acknowledgment and love into your own hands; for you to acknowledge and love your self. In this way you are not dependent on others for acknowledgement and your actions can come from a place of true giving rather than conditional giving and high need.

When you give your self the acceptance, acknowledgement and love you truly want you are nourishing your true self. Consequently, you are less needy and your relationships become more honest and deeper.

Your Next Step: Ask yourself:

“How could I make my current relationship problem a gift?”

Let your answer give you insights that will help you make changes and deepen your relationship with your self as well as others.

If you would like support to be your True Self and create better relationships do get in touch. I am a Live Your Truth expert and I’d love to support you when you want to more fully express your true self and shine more brilliantly. I’d love to hear from you.

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Relationship Problems Dwindle When You Honour Your True Self (Barrier 2)

Green Heart with Blue Flowers, 620x373To be your true self and have harmonious relationships is something that you, as a heart centred professional, are likely yearning for.

In this post, the 2nd of a series of 3 on overcoming relationship problems, you’ll discover another of the most common barriers and a way to overcome it so that you have a deeper more satisfying relationship.

I expect you have grown up thinking that harmonious relationships, ones where there is little or no conflict, mean that your life at home and work brings you joy rather than stress. I expect that is what you truly want and your behaviour reflects this. But is your behaviour bringing you what you really want?

Barrier No 2: Your desire to have harmony, to not rock the boat, nearly always comes with a cost and you may not be conscious of it. The cost is that you are agreeing with others when you do not deep down agree with them. The voice of your true self is denied and over time you feel resentful and long to be honoured.

There is also another cost, others do not hear the voice of your true self, they do not hear your truth, your opinions, or receive your gifts. They only get half the picture and cannot fully understand you.

“So when you are asked for your opinion do you give an honest answer?”

Or

”Do you tend to agree with others, knowing that it will keep the peace and avoid conflict?”

Conscious Connection Solution No 2: If you do the latter, want to keep the peace and avoid conflict, it may be time to be more conscious and to acknowledge this trait. Acknowledge the cost and how it is impacting your connection, relationship, with your true self and others.

Now may be the time to stop avoidance and learn to see disharmony and conflict as potentially valuable, constructive situations rather than situations to avoid.

Yes, by being able to be your true self and voice your truth in a constructive, conscious way, you will deepen your relationships and be more fully understood. Furthermore, the likelihood of having your needs met will increase too.

Your Next Step: Ask yourself:

“How could I make my current relationship problem a gift?”

Let your answer give you insights that will help you make changes and even deepen some of your relationships.

If you would like support to be your True Self and create better relationships do get in touch. I am a Live Your Truth expert and I’d love to support you when you want to more fully express your true self and shine more brilliantly. I’d love to hear from you.

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Relationship Problems Dwindle When You Honour Your True Self (Barrier 1)

HandshakeWhy is it that many heart-centred people struggle in their professional and personal relationships? What are the barriers that stop them from having more satisfying relationships?

In this post, and the following two, you’ll discover 3 of the most common barriers and 3 ways to overcome them so that you have deeper more satisfying relationship.

Being your true self, connecting consciously and seeking to empower those you have a relationship with is beneficial to you and to them. You are doing what you love to do, empower others, and the recipient is benefitting be increased self-confidence and self worth. Furthermore they are less likely to need you in an unhealthy way.

Everyone wins and I expect that is what you truly want…

Barrier No 1: Heart-centred people enjoy helping others and this desire results in actions that are not always appropriate. Excessive helping can over time result in the recipient feeling disempowered rather than empowered. Feeling that they cannot do something and lacking confidence, rather than being confident and taking action. Saying ‘no, they can’t’ rather than giving it a go and find an answer or a solution.

Because heart-centred people enjoy helping others they often do not stop to think about their actions until they feel overwhelmed and exhausted. Only then do they realise that their actions have created a rod for their own back. Their unconscious actions do not serve their true selves.

Conscious Connections Solution No 1: Far better to connect consciously and question your helping actions during the early stages of a relationship. One of the most effective questions to ask your self before helping someone is:

“Am I empowering or disempowering this person by taking this action?”

By paying attention to the answer you ensure that your actions nourish you and do not drain you. Furthermore your actions empower others and help you build deeper more satisfying relationships both at home and in the work-place.

By honouring your true self you stop making a rod for your own back.

Your Next Step: Ask yourself:

“How could you make your current relationship problem a gift?”

Let your answer give you insights that will help you make changes and even deepen some of your relationships.

If you would like support to be your true self and create better relationships do get in touch. I am a Live Your Truth expert and I’d love to support you when you want to more fully express your true self and shine more brilliantly. I’d love to hear from you.

And if you would like to leave a comment or ask a question please leave it in the box below.