Create Better Relationships – Part 2 : Mindset

Today we’re going to be talking about mindset and creating relationships. Firstly let me remind you that my last post was about creating trust in relationships and if you missed it you may want to read it either now or later.

If you read the last post about trusting in relationships, what have you noticed over the past few days? Are you more trusting? If you are, well done! If you are not, what might you do today to trust more?

Does your mindset make or break your relationships?

mindset beauty ile0001736930101An empowering mindset supports you in being your true self in your relationships; without it you will not be seen by others, not realise your true potential and not live vibrantly.

Your mindset is shaped by your beliefs, a belief that says it is safe to be your true self and open hearted is critical if you are going to have more rewarding relationships.

Why is this? When your mindset (beliefs) support you in believing that you are fully accepted when you are your true self, you have self worth, speak your deep truth, ask for what you really want and live your values. When this happens you are open hearted, confident, and more easily understood by others and your relationships reflect this.

When your mindset (beliefs) are not supportive and create doubts and fears (for example the fear of being judged, or isolated, or rejected), your self worth, behaviour and inter-personal relationships are affected.  For example you hide or deny your true self; you stay small in your relationships; you find yourself being moulded by others as you please them rather than yourself.

Far better for you to hold an empowering mindset, a mindset that supports you in being your true self while in relationships.

Your Call to Action

Take a moment now to examine your mindset and ensure that it is supporting you in being in your truth and having the relationships you really want.

In your relationships are you holding back or disguising your true self because your mindset is not supporting you? What has to happen before you improve your mindset?

If you want to be in your truth and create better relationships, how could you fine tune your mindset so it would support you even more?

 If you are struggling with these questions or wanting support to create a better mindset why not get in touch. I am passionate about helping you make new connections, find your true success through being your true self.

And look out for pt 3 of Create Better Relationships; in this next post I will be inviting you to look at the person behind the behaviours that trigger you.

 

 

 

 

Create Better Relationships – Part 1 : Trust

Trust is critical

SONY DSCIf you are going to build satisfying professional and personal relationships you must trust each other. Without trust you disguise your true self, you withhold part of your self and you constrict the relationship you are in. Consequently there is less connection in your relationship and you are less understood. At work this can damage your effectiveness and comes with a cost; at home this can cause you to grow apart…again there is a cost.

So why do you not trust the other person?
It may be for one of a number of reasons:

  • It may be about the other person; she/he may not respect you , has abused or bulleyed you, spoken about you behind your back, is not honest with you
  • Or it may be about yourself and your lack of trust; you may have perceived fears eg. You fear being judged if you reveal who you truly are; you fear that if you are honest the other will use your weaknesses against you.

How much you trust another person is your choice and you have to use your discretion. The important thing to remember is that the more you withdraw and withhold your true self, the less connection and relationship there will be with the other. Over time a relationship that lacks trust is likely to wither and die.

When you want to improve a relationship one of the first things to address is trust. You need to ask yourself – If I was to trust more and show more of my true self, would it improve my relationship with this person?

If your answer to the above question is ‘yes’, the next question is – How might I be more trusting, more in my truth, in this relationship? What action do I need to take now?

If your answer to the above question is ‘no’, and you want (or need) to stay in the relationship the next question is – How do I maintain this relationship without damaging my true self?

Do let me know how you go with these questions…share your thoughts in the comment box below.

Your Call to Action

Review your significant relationships now. Look at each of them honestly. If you would like to improve any of them ask yourself the questions highlighted above.

And come back next week for the second (2nd) part of the Create Better Relationships series, we will look at Behaviours as Triggers.

And if you are struggling with trust in your relationships or wanting support why not get in touch, I would love to help you to create more fulfilling relationships while being your true self.

7 Key Ways to Create Better Relationships

Create Better Professional and Personal Relationships

When you are withholding or disguising your true self, your truth, your relationships do not flourish. You do not connect fully and consequently you do not feel seen or heard, you then feel isolated and unsupported. And this may very well occur in both your professional and personal relationships.
PartnershipSo how do you create great relationships in your professional and personal lives?
It happens when you are prepared to honour your truth, rather than disguise or hide it. You are in integrity, proud to honour who you are, your true self. You are open-hearted and want to connect honestly with others.
You consciously choose who you want to be in relationship with; you are not afraid to walk away from people who disguise their true selves and do not communicate openly and honestly with you.

7 Key Ways to Honour Your Truth and Create Better relationships:

1. Set the intention that you want; you manifest what you focus on and put energy into
2. Stay present and connected; do not get distracted when you are communicating with others
3. See the good, the soul, in others; realise the behaviour you see is not always the true self
4. Trust; without trust meaningful relationships are impossible
5. Discriminate; you do not need to be in a relationship with everyone
6. Connect to Spirit/Source; know you have Spirit/Source to help you at all times
7. Make sure your mindset supports you; it is safe to be your true self and open-hearted

How do you manage to hold onto your truth and create better professional and personal relationships?

I would love to hear. Please share your tips in the comment box below.

And remember without action nothing changes.

Your Call To Action

I hope you will explore at least one of the above ways to honour your truth, in doing so I know you will create better, more satisfying, relationships.

Which way would be a stretch for you…why not play with that one this week?

And if you are struggling with this question or wanting support to create better relationships why not get in touch. I am passionate about helping you find your true success through being your true self.

 

Are You Disguising Your True Self?

Will the new king’s true self ever be seen? 

eyeAs people around the world celebrate the birth of a new royal baby, a baby who may someday become the king of the United Kingdom, I ponder upon the likelihood of this baby ever being able to express and honour his true self. How is he going to be brought up? How is he going to be influenced and moulded by the culture and family he is brought up in?
The people around him and his environment will affect him so much. He will more than likely be extremely visible, and because of this vulnerable, throughout his life. How much will he be protected from this spotlight? How will this affect him? We will never know.

How have you been influenced and moulded since birth?
What we do know is that from the moment each one of us is born we begin to be shaped by our environment, culture and those around us; it is their joys and stresses, their touch, their actions, and their voices that are felt quickly by a new born baby. As a baby our senses are finely tuned, and our sixth sense, you might call it intuition or divine guidance, is possibly the most finely tuned at birth.
So what happened to close you, down? Why have you grown up less open-hearted and willing to connect deeply and be seen. Why have you become less trusting? Why did your sixth sense become less developed rather than more developed during childhood and adulthood?
Have you shifted from being a heart-centred baby to a head-centred adult? If so how often was your ‘true self’ masked or denied as you grew up? Is it still being masked or denied?
So many questions and so many possible answers!!!

Perhaps better to reflect on one question “What has to happen before you reveal more of your true self, your essence that was with you when you were born…and is still with you?”

Key Take-Away
Remember, you came into this world open-hearted, wide-eyed, curious, trusting, keen to connect deeply and open to experiencing oneness and expansion. As a new born baby you were as free as you ever will be of history; free of any influences and moulding exerted by the culture and family you were to be brought up in. You were alive and living in the present moment.
In this state of openness and deep connection you were radiant, you were being your true self.
Today, as an adult, it is in this state of openness and expansion that you most likely attract success…what you deeply desire.
“How, starting from today, might you begin to reveal even more of your true self and attract true success?”

If you are struggling with this question or wanting support you might benefit from hiring a coach who, like myself, is passionate about helping you find your true success through being your true self.

And I’d love to hear your thoughts on the above post, please leave them in the comment box below.

Connections Ezine 2012

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Connection Ezine – November 2012 –  New Energies…is your heart open and ready for them?

Connections Ezine – October 2012 – What are you missing….not seeing?

Connections Ezine – September 2012 – Is your perspective limiting you or empowering you?

Connection Ezine – August 2012 – Are you willing to get rid of the life you’ve planned?

Connections Ezine – July 2012 – Are you paying attention to Einstein’s wisdom?

Connections Ezine – June 2012 – Is your response to pain causing psychic numbing or global healing

Connections Ezine – May 2012 – Are you seeing things as they are or are you seeing things as you are?

Connections Ezine – April 2012 – Your choices create your life…are they creating what you really want?

Connections Ezine – March 2012 – Ezine – Embrace the unseen…walk with spirit

Connections Ezine – February 2012 – Ezine – Get out of the way. allow your creativity and intuition to bubble up

Connections Ezine – January 2012 – Ezine – Embrace Self Love.raise your vibration and that of humanity

Connections Ezine 2011

Connections Ezine – December 2011 – You are always choosing…what are you creating?

Connections Ezine – November 2011 – Be ready for 11-11-11

Connections Ezine – October 2011 – Be more accepting….nourish your soul

Connections Ezine – Sept 2011 – Trust your Intuition…your divine guidance

Connections Ezine – August 2011 – Be Willing to Step into the Unknown

Connections Ezine – July 2011 – Celebrate Small Differences

Connections Ezine – June 2011 – Re-enchant Your Everyday Life

Connections Ezine – May 2011 – Attitude Determines Your Experience

Connections Ezine – April 2011 – let go the need to make a difference

Connections Ezine – March 2011 – Earth Shaking Re-alignments 

Connections Ezine – February 2011 – Actions Determine our Legacy

Connections Ezine – January 2011 – Get Clear on what Matters Most to You

Connections Ezine – December 2010 – Don’t Throw the Baby out with the Bathwater

Connections Ezine – November 2010 – The Dalai Lama and Change

Connections Ezine – October 2010 – Making the Present Perfect

Connections Ezine – September 2010 – A message from Mother Earth

Connections Ezine – August 2010 – Be the Change you want to see in the World